The Reason Why Men Pull Away From Their Perfect Girl

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The Reason Why  Men  Pull Away From  Their Perfect  Girl

When Holly was introduced to  Colin 3 years ago , she could see  they were perfectly suited  for each other . They shared the same  dark humor  and  enjoyed  the same  cinema   . Plus they  both wanted to have children  in the next few  years .

Even their favorite childhood book  was the same  - The Velveteen Rabbit - a sweet  coincidence that Colin  often  pointed out  when family and friends  asked about how they met .

So when he  all of a sudden  ended the relationship  one rainy  October day, she was  completely  blindsided.

"I don't  comprehend  what happened ," she explained  "He had  told me that he'd made  a checklist  when he was young  of everything  he desired  in a partner , and that I was everything he ever hoped for . Not only that,  just last month  he was talking about   singing  lessons  so he could sing to me  at our wedding."

Unfortunately , Holly's story  is all too common . Dating and relationship expert Clayton Max told us  it's not unusual   for a guy  to suddenly  reject  a woman  , even if they seem perfect together .

"What a lot of  women  don't  realize ," Max says  "is it doesn't really matter  how perfect  a woman  is for a man  'on paper '. She can  check  all the boxes  on his list, but  he still might  have moments of panic  when it comes to moving  the relationship forward "

It's because  despite  priding themselves on  being logical , Max claims , "Males  do not  select  a partner  based upon  who's the best  rational  option  for them. Rather , they select  the individual  that  makes them FEEL certain things."

What do they need to feel?

According to Max,  men  are naturally  much more  afraid  of commitment  than women , however  their brains    are  pre-wired with a mechanism that overrides  this fear  with the appropriate  woman .

Max describes this mechanism as  The Infatuation Instinct , and when it's activated , it essentially  closes down  the part of his mind  that feels stressed . All of a sudden  his thoughts  of doubt are relaxed , he feels a sense of certainty about the woman , and he's prepared  to move mountains to be with her.

When deciding  between a woman  that  makes logical sense    and  one that 's triggered  his primal  infatuation instinct , men  will  go with  the one that 's sparked  his infatuation impulse  one hundred percent of the time .

So what are the vital  suggestions  for someone  who  wants her partner  to commit   deeply to her?

1. Take  the situation the way it is

A huge  mistake that  women make, is wishing men  were different than they are. But a man  can no more change  these  thoughts  of uncertainty    than a woman can control her instincts   .

In fact , when he really feels  judged  for  not being sure , it only  increases  the stress and anxiety  and sense of guilt  he  has inside , making him more likely to hit the 'eject' button  instead of trying to figure  things  out .

By accepting  that this is simply  the way  males  are wired, and not pushing  him,  it offers  you  room  to concentrate on  what DOES  make him sure  - activating  his infatuation reaction .

2. Avoid Focusing  on convincing  him

Most  women make the mistake of  trying  to be his  'perfect girl' , by showering him with  all the 'good girlfriend ' traits , like  being an excellent  listener, being loyal, attentive, generous, and passionate .

They'll list  out all the reasons they're a perfect  suit , or they'll   try  to figure out  what qualities he desires  in a partner , so they can display them when he's around.

In either case , they're attempting  to work with  his 'logical  brain ', which in this instance  is not running the show .

Women   do this repeatedly , despite the fact that this strategy  almost  never ever  works , leaving them let down , and mad  when the man  ends up  choosing  someone  who  has virtually  none of the personality traits  he claims  he wants .

3. Focus on  activating  his infatuation impulse

The only surefire  way of getting a guy  to commit with his whole  heart, so he's absolutely  confident  a woman  is the one for him, is to trigger  his infatuation instinct .

A guy 's infatuation impulse  is switched on  by a few  very specific traits in a woman . Things  like intrigue , boundaries, and also  uncertainty , which stir  a sense  of excitement  and a desire  to chase .

While  many  women   attempt  to show her man  just how  dedicated  she is  to him in  the hope  that this is going to  make him feel safe    to give her  his heart, this generally  just  contributes EVEN MORE to  the stress  he feels on his shoulders , because  at this moment , he's even more  terrified  of losing his freedom  than losing her.

For more information  about  how  to trigger  a man's  infatuation instinct , with  exact  scripts that do exactly  that, watch this free video presentation.

In it, you'll find out about  the 'emotional tripwire', which places  a man  in infatuation mode, without him realizing why.

Watch it now while it's still online